There seems to be so much angst at the moment about autistic children and adults whose experiences, abilities and support needs look very different. I wondered how we would navigate that. Would we understand each other? Would our differences get in the way?

Sarah, who was part of the conversation, is a mum of three autistic boys. Two started speaking later than their peers, and one is non-speaking.

My experience is different. I have an autistic child who started speaking early and speaks A LOT. They are ADHD as well as autistic, and when they were young, there was little on the outside to distinguish them from their peers.

If you’ve spent years wondering whether you might be autistic, you may have found yourself:

Do I actually need an autism assessment?

Perhaps you recognise yourself in what you read about autism. Perhaps someone has suggested that you might be autistic. Or maybe you’ve reached a point in your life where things that you’ve always managed somehow no longer feel manageable.

At the moment, there is a lot of noise in the media and online spaces about autism and ADHD.
You may have seen headlines questioning whether autism is being “overdiagnosed”, or debates about whether ADHD even “exists”. You may have come across increasingly polarised conversations about people identifying as neurodivergent later in life, particularly women, and whether this is “valid” or “trendy” or “accurate”.

There is a growing awareness of the experiences of autistic women, but pregnancy and early motherhood remain areas that are still neglected. While every pregnancy is unique, being autistic can add extra layers of sensory, emotional, cognitive, and social intensity that are rarely acknowledged openly. I have written this blog based on reflections on my own two pregnancies and thinking as a Clinical Psychologist working specifically with autistic girls and women.

If you’re looking for an ADHD assessment for yourself, your daughter, or someone you care about, you want to know you’re in safe hands.
The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) publishes guidance that sets the standard for high-quality ADHD assessments across the UK. At our service, these guidelines shape what we do—but we also believe that a truly good assessment goes beyond meeting clinical standards.
We know that many of the ADHD girls and women we meet have spent years feeling misunderstood, masking their difficulties or being told that they’re, “lazy”, “away with the fairies”, “too emotional”, or “just anxious”. That’s why we’ve developed an assessment process that combines clinical expertise with genuine curiosity about each person’s lived experience.
Below, we’ve explained how our ADHD assessments align with the NICE guidelines—and how we bring those recommendations to life.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) publishes guidance to help ensure autism assessments are thorough, evidence-based and person-centred. At our service, these guidelines form the foundation of every assessment we provide.
But we also know that an excellent assessment is about much more than meeting a set of standards.

Recently, I delivered an in-person presentation at an autism and ADHD event, and afterwards I found myself reflecting on something important: understanding my neurotypes having a positive impact on the entire experience.
Not just the presentation itself, but the preparation, the environment, the way I managed my energy, and the way I connected with both myself and the audience.
For most of my life, I approached presentations by trying to force myself into ways of working that simply did not fit me. I thought success meant pushing through discomfort, masking anxiety, and trying to appear polished in ways that often exhausted me.

Communication is often talked about as though there’s one “right” way to do it. Speak clearly. Be concise. Make eye contact. Reply quickly. But for many autistic and ADHD people, communication is much more nuanced than that.

One of the most helpful things we can do is develop awareness of how we communicate best — and what feels good, comfortable, and sustainable for us.

That sounds simple, but communication preferences can actually vary a lot depending on the situation, the person we’re with, our energy levels, sensory demands, stress levels, or even the time of day.

Seeking an autism assessment can be a deeply personal and often vulnerable step.

For many, it represents a search for clarity, validation, and self-understanding. Yet not all assessment experiences are the same—and the differences can significantly affect not only the outcome, but how you feel about yourself afterward.

This post aims to help you recognise the different types of autism assessments, so you can make an informed and compassionate choice.

Discover how the window of tolerance impacts autistic and ADHD (AuDHD) people. Learn why it’s often narrow, how burnout affects it, and how awareness can help widen the window.

The “window of tolerance” is a term used to describe the optimal zone where we feel regulated, engaged, and able to think clearly. It’s the state where our brains are “online,” where we can be present, focused, and in our flow without tipping into overwhelm.

For autistic and ADHD people—sometimes known together as AuDHD—this window of tolerance is often much narrower than for neurotypical people. And when the window is narrow, staying in it becomes a constant balancing act.